I used to be a shark (Hard seller). Do you remember me? Continiously, scanning, scanning, trying to get as much prospects as possible. No eye contact with those who may not need my product, objectifying, cold eyed gaze, looking for...
HOT porspects to be exact.
Yeah, I used to be that guy. I would chase one prospect after another. And if I did not sell, I move on to the next one.
Anybody else who is not a prospect weren’t fellow human beings; they were "not important", "not money" or "a waste of time".
Today I notice these sales guys/women precisely by how little they notice me. Tight, contracted, critical gaze. Looking to "get" the next "hot prospect". Fact is, a man just doesn’t show up this way unless if he’s looking to fill a gaping need.
Yep…that’s "sharking". And those were some dark days, my friend, because on the inside, I was suffering. And yet when I finally realized that I would *never* be fulfilled by something outside Myself, I stopped. I mean, who cares how many hot propects I get if I still felt empty on the inside & not much sales conversion?
It’s like trying to keep a bucket riddled with holes full of water….it’s a lot of work!
So, here’s a quick check to see if you’ve been “Sharking”:
Q: Do you barely make eye contact with other people who does NOT need your product at social events? Are they more like just objects in your awareness, potential time wasters?
Q: No matter how much success you enjoy with prospecting, when you get really honest with yourself, you know it will never be enough…that you’re trying to fill some kind of hole inside…
Q: Do you immediately scan whatever social event you’re at, evaluate the people who may need your product, and if there are no prospects you find immediately available, you get bored/anxious and want to leave…
If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, chances are that you, like me, are attached to some kind of need for validation.
Since that time I’ve discovered how powerful Appreciation is. It’s the second level of our Inner Game Training Model and when I discovered it for myself it was like the warm light of the sun glittering into what used to be dark, gloomy, gray waters. If this sounds like just some happy-go-lucky word then you just don’t get it yet.
Without full and complete Appreciation for you’re at and who you’re with, in every given moment, you are, to some degree, suffering.
But when I *am* Appreciating...what a difference! The whole world, including my prospects & customers, seems to open to me. In letting go of my attachment to things going a certain way, I am free to enjoy myself, independent of the external circumstances. Paradoxically, the prospects who see me having fun, celebrating them and everyone else are getting "turned on", and are now putting their attention on ME.
Besides, who needs to shark when all the fish are coming to you?
Exercise: Next time you're at a party or social event, practice smiling and making real contact with EVERYONE you meet, guys and girls, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Find something you can appreciate about each of them. And notice what kind of a difference it makes in the quality of your interactions, and of your evening.
Whether you’re a shark, an ex-shark or a never-shark, the first step to avoid the pitfalls where we screw ourselves over in our relating with women is awareness. For a FREE Special Report from AMP on the Ultimate Guide to Overcoming ‘Inner Game’ Sticking Points with Women (illustrated with embarrassing pictures of me),
Get it now: www.
Ali Rahmat CEO, Kings International
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
BMS Course (Business Mind Success)
You’ve arrived at the BMS (Business Mind Success) Intensive Course page.
Our weekend intensive is the deeply challenging & rewarding journey – into the core of who you know yourself to be.
First & foremost – This course is designed for people serious about having extraordinary, mutually rewarding business relationships and passive income, beyond what most people know are even available.
For years now, business people all over the planet have been pouring astonishing amounts of energy into taking seminars & ‘bootcamps’, spending countless hours on email lists & forums, reading every article they can get their hands on…all around the subject of how to have more more revenue for their business and more money in their life.
In a time when people are still massively out of touch with their own emotions and passion, pain & frustration with their own business, is the one thing that consistently cattle-prods them into finally taking a look at their lives with honesty & depth.
But for business people delving beyond simply learning to get more sales, this journey is turning out to be more than they’d bargained for…
You’re already operating your business and genuinely want to take it to an even deeper, more authentic global international level… but you worry if you have enough finances, capital etc
No matter how developed you are in every other area in your life, you still get uncomfortable or shut down with building business relationships and business growth…if so, read on…
Though the BMS Intensive it can be a fun and memorable experience, hilarious at times, you definitely need to be ready to have an intense experience.
Not only are business people inspired by having such an impactful, once-in-a-lifetime experience in this course, they are consistently shocked that a 3-day seminar can so thoroughly surpass their expectations in so many ways.
We’ve been happily eating, breathing & sleeping ‘business/sales dynamics’ for over a decade to hone this body of work. We are experts at identifying the ways salespeople/entrepreneurs shutdown, freak out, or blow up during vulnerable moments, and get to the root what’s really going on…
As a result, hundreds of business man/women have re-defined what a fulfilling business this business can be through BMS. We really hope you’ll be one of them.
WHAT OTHERS SAY
Abby & Rush were really able to demystify and break down relating to business relationship building as something that is attainable and within reach. I really got that I could do this too. And I have!
Before the course, I was totally stuck. I had not much success with my previous businesses. And I wasn’t able to approach the client I was interested in without getting rejected. Inside, my desires were all jumbled up. I didn’t know how to express what I felt, and had a lot of judgments about it. After the course, I had a lot more confidence and was consistently taking more chances and going after what I want. I made more money regularly afterwards, and now I’m in an many amazing business relationship that I’m completely excited about!
The course was great. I feel really good about being in my own skin, and now I can just relax and do this simple business rather than worrying about how all the back end operations and finances. I can enjoy the actual moment rather than being freaked about whatever’s coming up inside of me because of who is in front of me.
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After leaving the weekend program at BMS, my view of the business world changed. I could see how this businesss, its system and the BMS work to increase my passive income on a completely different level. I came away with an enlightened mind and a renewed passion to creating what can only be described as “authentic and real business relationship” with every person I meet.
I consider myself to be a fairly aware guy, with my awareness at a 6 or 7. With the work over the weekend I can see my awareness going to a 9 or even a 10. IMO, this is the next level, the real jedi mind stuff that takes interactions with people to even greater heights and therefore building my business relationships.
Have you ever met someone who just floored you? You know the man or woman who has a presence about them that is emanating like a force field surrounds them? Well, that’s what BMS does for you. It allows you to see and feel these waves.
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Before BMS: I was running my own business & building business relationships, but it was from an apologetic, inauthentic place.
What I learned in BMS has impacted and enriched every facet of my life, every business relationship as well as personal relationships. At BMS, I got in touch with my deep desire FOR success. I used to be afraid of asking for the sale or business or deal? Now, with this business and the BMS course, I can be confident & be comfortable with myself, in prospecting and building my team. I’m now able to run a business without worrying about the operation & technical stuffs. I can focus on what brings in the money, that is sales, lots & lots of sales & building business relationships with my customers. And, it’s a totally natural thing, more natural than anything I tried before. I feel more solid, and have more CHOICE in who I want to do business with. Since BMS, my passive income & business came approaching me without me trying hard to sell.
BMS goes far beyond increasing sales & your passive income. It goes deep down into the core of who you are, what you want, and how to bring out all parts of yourself to every interaction.
In terms of building your confidence and power, nothing else comes even CLOSE to BMS.
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I had had many great experiences with running my own business before BMS, but to a large degree everything was passing me by. Before BMS I could see what I wanted in my head but I wouldn’t execute. Now I have a life with more fluidity, a life that’s fully lived, no feelings of inferiority or superiority, and my relating with people has changed so tremendously, I feel such a tremendous gift that the relationships that I do have are much deeper and more fulfilling to me.
In the course, it was really a challenge to have so strong a mirror held up to me. It was not easy, but I really enjoyed the friends in my course and got so much out of it–it was so much more than I expected. I thought it would be some business course where I would learn some sales techniques and other outer game, but it was really nothing like that, and I’m glad it wasn’t. Outer game wouldn’t have gotten me to the experiences that I had over the last six months almost a year now. I would not trade these experiences for anything. The course really opened up my hunger for really deep relating which includes, but is so much more than just getting a first conversation started– it’s about my Being.
Ali is very charismatic, and develops trust and very quickly and easily, definitely a genuine feeling. I really feel his commitment and his desire to do this work. He shares his own life in the course very boldly at times, and that really helps to ground the teachings. How he interacts with the students–it’s very approachable and he’s got a very strong intuitive sense of what really serves a man in a situation, and I really appreciate his tenacity — he’s really committed to digging in and staying with them until they can really get a breakthrough.
The BMS course is part of the Kings International Group of services and its beauty & health business.
If you want to know more contact abbylaptops@gmail.com
Our weekend intensive is the deeply challenging & rewarding journey – into the core of who you know yourself to be.
First & foremost – This course is designed for people serious about having extraordinary, mutually rewarding business relationships and passive income, beyond what most people know are even available.
For years now, business people all over the planet have been pouring astonishing amounts of energy into taking seminars & ‘bootcamps’, spending countless hours on email lists & forums, reading every article they can get their hands on…all around the subject of how to have more more revenue for their business and more money in their life.
In a time when people are still massively out of touch with their own emotions and passion, pain & frustration with their own business, is the one thing that consistently cattle-prods them into finally taking a look at their lives with honesty & depth.
But for business people delving beyond simply learning to get more sales, this journey is turning out to be more than they’d bargained for…
You’re already operating your business and genuinely want to take it to an even deeper, more authentic global international level… but you worry if you have enough finances, capital etc
No matter how developed you are in every other area in your life, you still get uncomfortable or shut down with building business relationships and business growth…if so, read on…
Though the BMS Intensive it can be a fun and memorable experience, hilarious at times, you definitely need to be ready to have an intense experience.
Not only are business people inspired by having such an impactful, once-in-a-lifetime experience in this course, they are consistently shocked that a 3-day seminar can so thoroughly surpass their expectations in so many ways.
We’ve been happily eating, breathing & sleeping ‘business/sales dynamics’ for over a decade to hone this body of work. We are experts at identifying the ways salespeople/entrepreneurs shutdown, freak out, or blow up during vulnerable moments, and get to the root what’s really going on…
As a result, hundreds of business man/women have re-defined what a fulfilling business this business can be through BMS. We really hope you’ll be one of them.
WHAT OTHERS SAY
Abby & Rush were really able to demystify and break down relating to business relationship building as something that is attainable and within reach. I really got that I could do this too. And I have!
Before the course, I was totally stuck. I had not much success with my previous businesses. And I wasn’t able to approach the client I was interested in without getting rejected. Inside, my desires were all jumbled up. I didn’t know how to express what I felt, and had a lot of judgments about it. After the course, I had a lot more confidence and was consistently taking more chances and going after what I want. I made more money regularly afterwards, and now I’m in an many amazing business relationship that I’m completely excited about!
The course was great. I feel really good about being in my own skin, and now I can just relax and do this simple business rather than worrying about how all the back end operations and finances. I can enjoy the actual moment rather than being freaked about whatever’s coming up inside of me because of who is in front of me.
------------------------------------------------------
After leaving the weekend program at BMS, my view of the business world changed. I could see how this businesss, its system and the BMS work to increase my passive income on a completely different level. I came away with an enlightened mind and a renewed passion to creating what can only be described as “authentic and real business relationship” with every person I meet.
I consider myself to be a fairly aware guy, with my awareness at a 6 or 7. With the work over the weekend I can see my awareness going to a 9 or even a 10. IMO, this is the next level, the real jedi mind stuff that takes interactions with people to even greater heights and therefore building my business relationships.
Have you ever met someone who just floored you? You know the man or woman who has a presence about them that is emanating like a force field surrounds them? Well, that’s what BMS does for you. It allows you to see and feel these waves.
------------------------------------------------------
Before BMS: I was running my own business & building business relationships, but it was from an apologetic, inauthentic place.
What I learned in BMS has impacted and enriched every facet of my life, every business relationship as well as personal relationships. At BMS, I got in touch with my deep desire FOR success. I used to be afraid of asking for the sale or business or deal? Now, with this business and the BMS course, I can be confident & be comfortable with myself, in prospecting and building my team. I’m now able to run a business without worrying about the operation & technical stuffs. I can focus on what brings in the money, that is sales, lots & lots of sales & building business relationships with my customers. And, it’s a totally natural thing, more natural than anything I tried before. I feel more solid, and have more CHOICE in who I want to do business with. Since BMS, my passive income & business came approaching me without me trying hard to sell.
BMS goes far beyond increasing sales & your passive income. It goes deep down into the core of who you are, what you want, and how to bring out all parts of yourself to every interaction.
In terms of building your confidence and power, nothing else comes even CLOSE to BMS.
------------------------------------------------------
I had had many great experiences with running my own business before BMS, but to a large degree everything was passing me by. Before BMS I could see what I wanted in my head but I wouldn’t execute. Now I have a life with more fluidity, a life that’s fully lived, no feelings of inferiority or superiority, and my relating with people has changed so tremendously, I feel such a tremendous gift that the relationships that I do have are much deeper and more fulfilling to me.
In the course, it was really a challenge to have so strong a mirror held up to me. It was not easy, but I really enjoyed the friends in my course and got so much out of it–it was so much more than I expected. I thought it would be some business course where I would learn some sales techniques and other outer game, but it was really nothing like that, and I’m glad it wasn’t. Outer game wouldn’t have gotten me to the experiences that I had over the last six months almost a year now. I would not trade these experiences for anything. The course really opened up my hunger for really deep relating which includes, but is so much more than just getting a first conversation started– it’s about my Being.
Ali is very charismatic, and develops trust and very quickly and easily, definitely a genuine feeling. I really feel his commitment and his desire to do this work. He shares his own life in the course very boldly at times, and that really helps to ground the teachings. How he interacts with the students–it’s very approachable and he’s got a very strong intuitive sense of what really serves a man in a situation, and I really appreciate his tenacity — he’s really committed to digging in and staying with them until they can really get a breakthrough.
The BMS course is part of the Kings International Group of services and its beauty & health business.
If you want to know more contact abbylaptops@gmail.com
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